Developing a walk in the spirit will likely create many offenses in your flesh. To be offended means: being resentful or annoyed, typically as a result of a perceived insult: One of the major attacks of the enemy is to destroy the unity in relationships. “For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body.” James 3:2. If you haven’t yet reached perfection, which most of us haven’t, here are several ways that you can handle being offended. I’ve collected a list so that we can receive some assistance in this frustrating struggle:
- When a comment seems offensive, keep in mind that it may not be aimed specifically at you. The comment may be casual and the person is unaware that you are taking it personally.
- Consider the context that things are being said or done. Many times, you may have misunderstood and taken it wrongly.
- Avoid being too sensitive, as it is a sure way to be easily offended.
- Tell yourself that the person may be having a bad day and didn’t realize how they came across. Don’t judge and avoid jumping to conclusions.
- Talk to the person about how you feel. The person might not realize that they offended you. Talking over the issues can help to resolve misunderstandings, hidden anger and frustration.
- Think positively and stop brooding over the offense. Thinking too much often makes you jump to conclusions that are oftentimes not based on fact.
- Stay away from self-pity when offended. It can destroy your confidence and make you miserable.
- Pray for the ability to forgive and forget the offense if you have been truly offended.